Archive for August, 2004

De-academizing sex

August 31st, 2004 at 2:43 am

Recently, my interest in sex has turned largely, overwhelmingly prurient and my pursuit of knowledge about sex has become mostly carnal in nature. This is pretty awesome, since typically I am overly analytical and more about the thinking than the doing (in sex and other things). I’ve been feeling like – fuck, I’ve done my […]


Job perks

August 25th, 2004 at 12:43 pm

For the last three years, I have not had to pay for some very crucial things: porn and safer sex materials. I usually buy my own lube and sex toys (because I’m picky), but otherwise – bring on the free stuff! This has gone on so long that I don’t even really know what the […]


Shoelust

August 24th, 2004 at 3:42 pm

There have been a plethora of articles in the New York Times of late that are all about sex and porn – articles I’ve been reading voraciously. But, though I’ve been thinking about them all, none of them have inspired me to blog like this article in today’s business section – about shoes. I have […]


Reading between the lines of sexual health studies

August 23rd, 2004 at 1:54 pm

Here is an article in USA Today about a new study that declares that use of Depo Provera triples the risk of a woman’s infection with chlamydia and gonorrhea. It also says that Depo Provera is most popular with younger women – ostensibly because there is no pill for mom to find, and because its […]


Monday morning cock n’ nuts

August 23rd, 2004 at 10:17 am

There’s nothing like coming into work on a Monday morning and opening Outlook to find pictures of erect penises. Solicited, at that. Apparently, I missed the really ridiculous post-shoot antics on Friday, in which our male talent repeatedly whipped his dick out and gave everyone his come-hither look. Our producer/editor, who is a take-no-shit kinda […]


Compersion – polyspeak for the opposite of jealousy

August 22nd, 2004 at 11:24 am

I’ve been dating Dirck for a year and a half, and the last month has been just this side of unbearable for various reasons. This week, however, we started to get back on track towards a workable future for the relationship. One of the things that has been an issue is his relationship with another […]


I am the towel girl, goo goo goo joob

August 21st, 2004 at 8:31 pm

I spent a good chunk of yesterday afternoon at a porn shoot, which in my opinion is a pretty terrific way to spend a Friday afternoon. Although the reason I was there was basically so that I could write an �on set� piece, this meant that all I was supposed to do was be observant. […]


Polywhatsit? Anatomy of an evolving perspective

August 19th, 2004 at 10:22 pm

Two years ago, I was entering the homestretch of a four and a half year monogamous relationship. Part of the decline of the relationship – which ended basically because we grew apart – was my gradual realization that I might want something other than a monogamous relationship. I kept this to myself, and I didn’t […]


Permission

August 18th, 2004 at 3:27 pm

The more I talk to people about sex in either the theoretical sense or the direct sense, the more I think that all sex and deviant desire is about is just � permission. People seem to have difficulty giving themselves permission to feel the way they feel, lust after what they lust for and get […]


The secret world of secrets

August 18th, 2004 at 10:42 am

I�m very much a planning and list-making person. But sometimes there are life situations that just can�t have a plan, because each situation is different from the next one. Unfortunately, when my hypothetical planning centers around a desire to create a workable double life (with many nuances), things get a little sketchy. I am bad […]