I spent a good chunk of yesterday afternoon at a porn shoot, which in my opinion is a pretty terrific way to spend a Friday afternoon. Although the reason I was there was basically so that I could write an �on set� piece, this meant that all I was supposed to do was be observant. I am a bit of a busy bee and I like to feel helpful, so I decided that I would do whatever needed to be done, which basically meant that I had to be prepared with condoms, lube and towels (for wiping off the gleaming sex sweat).
It was good times all around. I think we did a good job of making the set relaxed but professional and our performers had a good time. There was a lot of laughter and dick jokes, which are good for (almost) any occasion.
As we deliberated over what positions we�d like to see and how the male talent should be more aggressive without being meaner, I thought � wow. There are plenty of people who will never feel comfortable enough to talk about sex as frankly as I do on a daily basis, and people who will never get to watch other people have sex live in front of them (forget being paid to do so on a porn set). I�m pretty privileged to have all that.
But, yesterday I was also reminded very acutely that most people don�t see that as a privilege. As I was on my way out the door, my ex called, and when I told him where I was going he said, �You have a college degree. Do something in your field. You�re too good for porn.� Sigh. I love the porn, and I am doing something in my field right now, plus I�m starting a master�s degree in two weeks. These are all my �fields.� Why am I getting defensive?
