Comments on: “Boy, sex work is weird” http://www.wakingvixen.audaciaray.com/2008/01/14/boy-sex-work-is-weird/ Audacia Ray's Adventures in Smart Sex Culture Tue, 05 Jul 2011 18:01:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jonathan http://www.wakingvixen.audaciaray.com/2008/01/14/boy-sex-work-is-weird/comment-page-1/#comment-38941 Jonathan Tue, 15 Jan 2008 21:54:09 +0000 http://www.wakingvixen.com/blog/?p=898#comment-38941 Having never walked a mile in the shoes of someone from the sex industry, it is with trepidation that I add this comment. But the very end of you post struck me -- what we do (i.e., our jobs) has such a profound impact on who we are (both what we think of ourselves and what others think of us) -- the liminality of sex work must create a challenge for developing an integrated narrative about identity -- we all like to tell stories about who we are -- I think that all of us struggle with explaining how our sexual identities fit in with that story. How do you connect the dots between the person that buys a bagel and cream cheese everyone morning to the same person letting loose with wild sexual abandon? With all due respect to the problematic nature of what you do, I will say I for one totally appreciate it. When I see something like "The Bi Apple" -- that seems to portray real people doing things they really enjoy -- I actually ending up feeling less weird. I feel like "Wow maybe there are people out there that enjoy the same things I do. Maybe I am not such a freak." That is a great feeling and maybe takes away some of the "weirdness" on your side. Having never walked a mile in the shoes of someone from the sex industry, it is with trepidation that I add this comment. But the very end of you post struck me — what we do (i.e., our jobs) has such a profound impact on who we are (both what we think of ourselves and what others think of us) — the liminality of sex work must create a challenge for developing an integrated narrative about identity — we all like to tell stories about who we are — I think that all of us struggle with explaining how our sexual identities fit in with that story. How do you connect the dots between the person that buys a bagel and cream cheese everyone morning to the same person letting loose with wild sexual abandon?

With all due respect to the problematic nature of what you do, I will say I for one totally appreciate it. When I see something like “The Bi Apple” — that seems to portray real people doing things they really enjoy — I actually ending up feeling less weird. I feel like “Wow maybe there are people out there that enjoy the same things I do. Maybe I am not such a freak.” That is a great feeling and maybe takes away some of the “weirdness” on your side.

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