Archive for August, 2009

On Dry Spells

August 27th, 2009 at 12:57 am

A quick follow up to my post about celibacy. First of all – thanks for the many emails and comments here and elsewhere. The post did what I thought it would – opened the floodgates, created conversation around this thing sex positive people aren’t supposed to have – a lack of partnered sex (maybe there […]


International Adventures: India and a Cultural Exchange

August 26th, 2009 at 11:44 am

My big news (I mean, other than the NY Times Book Review) this month is that the International Women’s Health Coalition is sending me to India. I leave for Delhi on the afternoon of September 4th and return the morning of September 21st. In between, I’ll be doing new media trainings for a variety of […]


What I learned from 6 months of celibacy

August 26th, 2009 at 12:50 am

There is a phrase I never thought I’d write. Though I didn’t start out this past year wanting to have very minimal partnersex (and in the case of the past six months, none at all), at a certain point, it became intentional. Here’s a no-duh statement: sexuality has been one of, if not THE, organizing […]


Feminist Men and Words that Wound

August 23rd, 2009 at 10:41 pm

On Wednesday night I attended a panel on feminist men, put on by Paradigm Shift, a feminist organization I recently discovered that is doing great community building work. [And before I dig into the ugly stuff, I want to make very clear that I really loved the event, will definitely be going to future Paradigm […]


NY Times Sunday Book Review Thinks My Writing is Good

August 21st, 2009 at 3:23 pm

Uh, so, that anthology I contributed to? Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys? It’s the cover of the New York Times Sunday Book Review this weekend, August 23rd. And my piece? It gets a prominent mention. Here’s what reviewer Toni Bentley says about my piece, “Hot Flush of Cash and Lust”: Audacia Ray, who […]


Upcoming: In the Flesh and Sex Worker Literati

August 20th, 2009 at 2:27 am

In the Flesh is a monthly series hosted by Rachel Kramer Bussel. On August 20th (uh, today. sorry for the last minute action) I’m reading my piece “Hot Flush of Lust and Cash” from the Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys at Happy Ending, 302 Broome Street. The event starts at 8 but you […]


Being a Powerful Advocate: The Rhode Island Case

August 18th, 2009 at 12:51 am

I’ve been buried pretty deep in my work over the past week and change and haven’t been able to give much brain space to what’s happening in Rhode Island, but I just spent some time catching up with the details, plus thinking some of this stuff through with Eliyanna Kaiser – who, to give you […]


Taking the Erotic Out of Sexual Culture (Feministe crosspost)

August 12th, 2009 at 12:44 pm

This is crossposted from my stint as a guestblogger at Feministe. Click on over to read through the 20 + fascinating comments. I’ve worked in and around sexuality for the past 8 years of my life, in capacities ranging from researching the history of gay bathhouses in nineteenth century New York to touching stranger’s penises […]


Sex Worker Literati Launch: The Importance of Storytelling

August 9th, 2009 at 2:12 am

There was, of course, plenty of documenting of the inaugural Sex Worker Literati on Thursday. You wouldn’t expect anything less from me, right? The above video is a teaser, with short clips of each of the performers (with the exception of Damien Decker, who didn’t want to be on camera). I’ll be uploading one video […]


How to be an online sexuality activist – kink for all presentation notes

August 8th, 2009 at 1:09 pm

How to be an online sexuality rights activist – and get an interesting social life.  Intro: wvp. Book. Bi apple, Tony. Sx work. Spread/swa. Media training. Iwhc. Sex worker lit.   10 tips for people who want to get involved but arent sure how. Tactics not tools! The tools are up to you, there’s more […]