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Why Scarleteen Matters and What You Should Do About It

October 28th, 2010 at 10:13 pm

Good, honest sexuality education is almost impossible to find in the United States. The reasons for this are rooted in our weird system of morals, fear of arming young people with information, and deep discomfort with sexuality. This all manifests in systems of funding. Which is to say, a really good way to control information […]


Video from Kink For All

March 10th, 2009 at 2:30 am

I only shot video of two of the presentations at Kink for All on Sunday, but they’re interesting ones, and very representative of what kind of things were happening at the event. Maymay on Gender, Technology, and the Idea Behind Kink for All from Audacia Ray on Vimeo. Cindy and Justen of Poly NYC Speak […]


Notes for my Sex 2.0 Keynote

April 14th, 2008 at 10:50 am

Since I wrote my book “Naked on the Internet,” one of the questions I get asked in just about every interview is: how did you get interested in this topic? And sometimes I draw a total blank when I try to respond, or I just want to say, “duh – cuz it’s awesome.” But the […]


How To Make a Condom into a Dental Dam Using Your Teeth

April 9th, 2008 at 10:43 am

In this video, I show how to make a dental dam with your teeth. This is a video reponse to Amber Rhea’s How to Make a Sex 2.0 Condom Into a Dental Dam. This is a rough edit without fancy title cards or a sound edit. The sound gets a little low towards the end, […]


Feminism, sex work, and the pink ghetto I made for myself

March 31st, 2008 at 8:18 pm

This weekend, as you may have notice from my obsessive live blogging and tweeting, I was at the Women, Action and the Media conference in Cambridge. As I’ve blogged about previously, I was pretty anxious about diving into the belly of the feminist beast. I identified myself as a feminist long before I was a […]


You need an official Waking Vixen sex nerd t-shirt

March 26th, 2008 at 2:27 pm

I’m very excited to announce that I know have official Waking Vixen tee shirts available, yay! I’m using AlertPay instead of PayPal – it’s a little clumsy but more adult-friendly than PayPal. If you prefer to pay by check, email store[at]wakingvixen[dot]com and I’ll let you know what to do. Designed by the lovely and amazing […]


Breaking Sex

March 10th, 2008 at 4:16 am

My pal, writer and amateur scene photodocumentarian Gerry Visco just put up a set of photos on her Flickr entitled Lady Jaye Memorial by Genesis P-Orridge that is well worth checking out. Her photos are matched to her piece on the NY Press Blog, S/HE IS (STILL) HER/E. Here is the first bit of the […]


The Female Perspective

March 5th, 2008 at 3:15 am

On Sunday, Julie Simone interviewed me for a Current TV piece about female perspectives in porn. She was covering this issue at CineKink last week. During the course of the interview, she asked me about how my female perspective influences the way I made The Bi Apple. And I just went blank, and kind of […]


Saturday night at St. Mark’s

September 12th, 2004 at 4:27 pm

Not the hot sheet hotel, the glorious bookshop! I mean sure, the St. Mark’s Hotel has short stays and a lot of sex worker and perv lore attached to it, but the St. Mark’s Bookshop has an anarchist section. Last night after a sushi dinner with my friend Jane, we got immersed in bookshop-land. Our […]


De-academizing sex

August 31st, 2004 at 2:43 am

Recently, my interest in sex has turned largely, overwhelmingly prurient and my pursuit of knowledge about sex has become mostly carnal in nature. This is pretty awesome, since typically I am overly analytical and more about the thinking than the doing (in sex and other things). I’ve been feeling like – fuck, I’ve done my […]